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How to Make a Tough Decision?

Probably everyone has come across and issue where you have to make a decision. It boils down to two distinct directions that are the options. You must choose between A or B, not A and B, or C. I think you understand what I am getting at. So, how do you make that decision? Here are few helpful tid-bits.

1. By choosing one or the other am I violating any ethical or moral law? Would it be a sin to choose one? Is it explicitly taught in Scriptures?

2. Am I placing myself as the lone decider or have I sought out counsel with others who may bring a perspective that I am not seeing (Blind spot helpers)?

3. By choosing one or the other am I placing a relationship in jeopardy? Family? Loved ones?

4. What is the chief end that is driving the conflict in choosing? Could you be choosing a particular side because of pride or fear? If that were taken away, which would you choose?

5. Are you being manipulated by someone outside to make a particular choice that you would otherwise not make if that were not present?

6. Is your relationship with God calling you make a sacrifice or decision? Is your faith Self being a distraction?

7. Will the effects of the choices make you more like Christ or less?

Bottomline: The World in which you and I live make decisions very different than confessing Christians. You might want to make sure when you are pursuing a decision point to navigate the 'wisdom' of the world with the wisdom of the Spirit. Seek counsel, be patient, and pursue holiness above all.



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