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Day 48, The "Get Out!" Storytime.

About four days ago, Jessica and I were riding down the Autobahn discussing the events of the upcoming week and various dinners we would have. A typical discussion, when your husband plans all the time, and your wife is an obsessive Chef.

As we were planning, we trailed off on a topic that we rarely discuss,...previous dates in our lives. This instantly digressed into a situation that I will gladly share. We called it, our personal, "GET OUT!" stories.

This is the scenario. You are a teenager or college student, dating person X. You are traveling from point A to point B, in a vehicle. I am not sure if it matters or not, but one of the individuals gets HIGHLY upset, enough that the time in the car is just TOO LONG, and the current PRESENCES of that person is causing utter disturbia (if that's a word). THUS, the only solution is :

1. QUICKLY STOP THE CAR.
2. YELL or RAISE YOUR VOICE, "GET OUT!"; "SERIOUSLY, GET OUT!"
or
1. SAY, "PULL THIS CAR OVER, I WANT OUT!"
2. QUICKLY STOPPING THE CAR, and EXITING THE VEHICLE.

Now mind you, Jessica and I laughed and discussed this for about 20 minutes. This was our 'private' talk, so I will not BLOG, about my personal past. Oh, how things change over the years. BUT Stories, like... "THE GET OUT STORYTIME"...will forever be a good time for Jessica and I.

Bottomline: The past relationships of many young married couples can oftentimes cause terrible marriage threatening problems. Knowing when and how mature your marriage is good, before jumping into long discussions about your teenage 'high-school' sweetheart...and 'fun-times' you had in college. We all have things we would like to leave in the past, and that is understandable. BUT, there are some things like, "the Get out storytime", which when properly administered in your family, will not cause problems...but will secure your marriage; due to the fact that you both emphasize the change of maturity from THEN to NOW. Speaking of the past as a learning time, opposed to glamorizing it, can always build security in the present and hope for the future.

Comments

  1. Seeing the title I was hoping for a story about Gimli. :)

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  2. I really like Brent's comment. I remember the one time I rode in G's car, which was on a trip to Mr. Gatti's. I still tell stories about that day.

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